Whoa...Mama is tired. Nothing to do with Will - nope, he's sleeping and he had a sleepover on Saturday night. It's the damn Grammy's. Why, why, why do I stay up for crap like that when I know I can watch every second on Youtube or the like the next day. I know I'm tired because never, not once, have I left Will's toys all over the place before I go to bed. Yet here I am, in my jammies, lying in my bed and downstairs has trucks all over the place. I couldn't deal. Before you go - 'whoa that chick is anal' - I'm not at all, I just made two vows to myself during my PPD - one was to make my bed every morning and the other was to clean up his crap every night. Oh well shit happens...or 'poo happens' as one of Will's shirts says.
On Friday, I took Will for his 18 month shots. It's so ridiculous. I can watch myself get needles, like.. I have a weird thing where I like to watch myself get needles. But not with him - nope - I can't look. He doesn't give a crap, he doesn't even cry. Anyway....at the end of the appointment my doctor asks me how many words Will has. I just stopped and looked and said, 'well...two I guess. Mama and hot.' (and no - he doesn't say hot mama...crap). And my doctor stops dead and says, 'well he should have 50 by now, I have some concerns.' WHAT??!?! WHAT?!?!?
Let me hit you with some honesty right now. I'm competitive. I'd like to think that I'm not competitive where Will is concerned, as in comparing him to other kids, but I do. I will also admit, I want him to be smart and funny. I want him to be cute. I want him not to be a pain in the ass when we're out in public. And...I want him to be talking if he's supposed to be talking!! So of course, I race home and check my developmental checklists and it says twelve. Twelve words buddy, not 50. I'll give you twelve words doctor....don't tell a mother that her kid is fallling behind developmentally, fuck. There's 12.
(Oh and I have to run now and rub the boys back again...let me say this, how come whenever you say something like 'my kid loves to go to sleep' you get jinxed but if you said 'I'm going to win the lottery' it'll never happen. Will is teething again - argh).
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Priceless!
ReplyDeleteI think we've got some serious teething over here too. Usually Ally doesn't seem too bothered but we had a screaming start to the day at 4:45 and he seemed really upset.
ReplyDeleteJust in case it helps, my doctor defines a 'word' as anything that they child says with intent that you understand what he means. So if Will makes any animal sounds, if he has a particular name for his bottle (even if it isn't 'bottle') etc. those all count. It's something to be aware of, but remember how Will kept you hangin' until he decided to walk ...!
-Jaimie
I wanted to add my sister's comment here - (she sent it via facebook)
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My dear sister (and her facebook friends) .. what your post/blog fails to mention is that while the developmental milestones are guidelines, it is absolutely critical that parents pay attention to them and .. frankly .. the fact that the doctor is on top of them is a good thing - many are not. Thankfully mine was - because I wasn't paying attention... See More adn at 18 months, my kid did not have any words and my doc raised the flag and got me headed on the path. Scotty also had other early warning signs. Delayed speech and language is one (just one) of the key early warning signs of autism. Sara has two nephews .. both of whom have neurological issues - autism and epilepsy. For her, to have her doc err on the side of caution is good. Will is a very social kid and is not showing any of the other signs for autism or developmental delay and the doc was likely a bit premature to raise the speech red flag but it takes months and years sometimes to get appointments with specialists and get access to publicly funded services. Some parents have to fight with their doc to get a referral to a specialist, wasting valuable time in accessing treatments and interventions. For more info on early warning signs go to autismspeaks.ca - the stories of kids not talking then turning into to talking machines are great .. many are not that lucky. I'm hereby down from the soapbox. Love the blog sis but careful with posts like this one. From your older - sometims but not always wiser - sister.
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ReplyDeleteAll well said Sue - and I guess in my tired state when posting, I didn't get across that I'm anal about checking my developmental checklists which was I was so shocked at the 50 words comment - as in, I would have known that he was way behind if I had seen 50 on that list. I encourage everyone to get those checklists from public health if you don'... See Moret have them already. I keep track and date them and make sure that he's meeting them all as does Will's daycare. To clarify, it says at 18 months he should have 12 words, not necessarily all clearly said. So sorry - I wasn't at all trying to belittle what the doctor said but also feel that maybe we need to get a standard developmental scale. I told him the ones that I go by, which he said were great, but they are also radically different obviously then the ones he goes by.
And here is a link to where you can order your free Nipissing Developmental charts....
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